Author risks fury of millions of women with a claim that THEY are to blame when husbands stray

12 April 2012

It is a philosophy sure to enrage every cheated wife.

A counsellor turned author claims that women are to blame for their husbands' indiscretions.

Psychotherapist Gary Neuman has written a guide to changes that women should make in order to stop their partners from straying.

Gary Neuman has advised women on how to prevent their partners from cheating (picture posed by model)

Gary Neuman has advised women on how to prevent their partners from cheating (picture posed by model)

It is the second book in a week that recommends women take a subservient role in marriage.

Mr Neuman's advice includes always forgiving him, providing sex on demand and taking an interest in his hobbies.

In his book, Advice in The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It, he says a woman should praise her man for providing for the family, even if she earns more than him.

The author, who has been featured on Oprah Winfrey's TV show and in Time magazine, claims his book is 'dedicated to helping wives'.

But not all women appreciated the recommendations.

'This is an appalling book,' said Susan Quilliam, a relationship psychologist and author. 'It's more like dog-training than being in an honest, successful, adult relationship.'

Dorothy Ramsay, chairman of the Association for Family Therapy, questioned whether the book was written as a joke. She said: 'It depends whether you see marriage as so worthwhile that it's worth sacrificing one human being to sustain it.'

Mr Neuman said he was just trying to give women some useful advice.

He questioned 25,500 faithful and unfaithful men and found almost 90 per cent linked cheating to some 'significant dissatisfaction' in their marriage.

He added: 'Men will eventually find their way into the arms of another if they are not getting enough sex at home.'

The Re-education Of The Female, which tells women to follow their man's orders if they want to keep him, has been a recent success in the U.S.

It says that women should wear sexy clothes while doing the cooking and cleaning.

And despite first-time author Dante Moore's chauvinist opinions, copies have been flying off the shelves in America.

One piece of advice reads: 'Here's a little secret, ladies. Men never really ask for anything. They command. And believe me, what you won't do, ten broads around the corner will.'


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